Is Low Self-Confidence holding you back from achieving your goals?

Do you feel nervous, shy and unsure of yourself? Is lack of self-confidence coming in the way of personal and professional progress?

What is self-confidence?

Put simply, self-confidence is how much you believe in yourself. Self-confident people have a better chance of attaining happiness as they believe in their inner ability. Healthy levels of self-confidence leads to improved control over your life and a strong belief that you will do what you plan, wish and expect to do. The best part about self-confident people is that the negative opinion of other people does not affect their self-belief.

You could feel confident about certain areas of your life while not in others. For example, you could be confident of your academic performance, sports and swimming while you could lack confidence about your looks or interpersonal relationships.

Low self-confidence is a common problem with many people. Most of us may have experienced low self-confidence at some point in our lives. People with low self-confidence are excessively dependant on others for approval. Their actions and thoughts tend to be driven by third party opinion and consequently, they dislike taking risks as they fear failure. Self-confident people on the other hand, accept the risk of failure as they accept themselves. They do not find the need to conform in order to seek personal, professional or social approval.

What are the reasons for low self-confidence?

Parents’ attitude to children plays a crucial part in building self-confidence and feeling good about themselves. Overly critical or demanding attitudes can develop a negative belief system in children where they believe themselves to be incapable or inadequate. The low levels of confidence continue as you grow up and may linger even when you become professionally successful.

Low self-confidence may also develop due to abuse, bullying or lack of warmth and love. We tend to internalize other’s harsh opinions and adopt the same critical attitude towards ourselves. In order to address the issue, it becomes necessary to examine the belief systems and experiences that led to low self-confidence levels.

Counselling and cognitive behaviour therapy helps you understand your motives for your opinions and feelings. The therapist works with you to formulate a set of behavioural goals where you are able to observe your thoughts and reactions. She will help you develop a set of personal standards that conform to your own beliefs rather than the approval of others. At  you will learn to replace with self-defeating thought patterns with positive affirmations that help build your self-confidence.

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