Feeling depressed and lonely after the death of a loved one?

Grief is an extremely private emotion. The extent and nature of grief varies across people and while some heal faster, others find it hard to come to terms with their loss. We experience grief after any loss including loss of money, job or social approval. But the grief experienced after losing a loved one can be deep and lasting. Unresolved grief may transform itself into suppressed emotion and may express itself through other ways such as substance addiction or depression.

Emotions following the death of a loved one can include sadness, despair, anger, denial and loneliness. The first two weeks are the most difficult and people experience the feelings of most agitation. After this period, the agitation usually settles down into sadness, sorrow or loneliness.

Moreover, unlike the olden days when families were large, we are left to cope with the grieving process on our own. Since death is not a popular topic for discussion and is not encouraged, most of us have no idea of how to process our emotions and move on. Apart from losing a loved one, even mothers who have miscarried or families who have a lost a beloved pet undergo the grieving process.

The most common emotion that follows a death (especially a sudden death) is a feeling of numbness and disbelief. In reality, this numb feeling is a protective reflex mechanism of the mind that shelters the psyche from shattering grief. It’s normal to experience for a few days but if the unreal feeling continues for weeks after the death, it can begin to disrupt normal day-to-day life. It’s important to acknowledge your feelings and express your emotions. Some may cope by going back to work or sending time with friends. Others may find it difficult to handle it and may withdraw into their shell. The mix of overwhelming emotions may often cause you to act out of character in a way that is different from your normal personality.

Grief counselling

A grief counsellor is trained to help you process your emotions and express them in a healthy manner. The therapy is different for everyone as each person has their own unique ways of coping. Grief counselling encourages you to resolve areas of emotional conflict, accept the loss and gives you the motivation to move on with your life. You learn to honour the memory of the deceased but prevent their absence from disrupting your life. At www.caswillow.com, you can get the help and support that you require to heal from feelings of grief and bereavement.

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